A Tantric approach to Life Counselling and Relationship Harmony
Established in 2006
Tune into Channel 9's brand new programme "What Women Want" on Saturday the 18th July at 4pm featuring The Sanctuary of Tantra and Women's Sacred Sexuality. Many thanks to Leslie, Lara and Dawn for their participation in the event and for being so patient and brave with the Camera right up close and personal! The interview will be posted on the website and also aired on the Aurora Foxtel Channel (dates to be advised).
Just a reminder that Master Alex Lim will be the Special Guest Speaker at the Meditation evening 22nd July at 7.15pm on Meditation and Spiritual Practices. Please remember to bring your yoga mat, cushion, water, blanket and your smiling face. The cost is $20 per person and will be held at THE FORRESTFIELD HALL, Cnr Hale Road and Anderson Road, Forrestfield. Please advise numbers for attendance. Fruit Platters will be supplied at break time.
Alex Lim was born in Central Java, Indonesia in 1955 of Indonesian Chinese parents. Starting Gymnastics at the age of 9, by 11 he was already into formal classes of Kung-Fu, which introduced him to small parts of Qigong of which he is now a Master. By 14, he was made an assistant instructor and over the years to follow, he became familiar and experimented with numerous other martial arts, including western boxing.
Early exposure to mysticism and spirituality was rekindled in his early thirties, when he rediscovered Yoga (which he continues to practise to this very day alongside Qigong & meditation). His wide interest in health, healing, and spirituality resulted in him formally studying Acupuncture & Chinese Medicine. Other studies include 'Spiritual Protection' under the guidance of "Grandpa" Abdullah, 'Self Knowledge' with Swami Suddhananda, and 'I Liq Chuan' (a variation of Tai Chi) with Grand Master Sam Chin.
Full details are now on the web under RETREATS for the Tantra Expedition to The White Lion Heartland Equinox 22nd March 2010. An incredible journey to Heal Self and the Great Mother (Earth).
It was J M Coetzee who first derived the term? the problem of sex? in hismodern day classic ?Disgrace?. To view sex in the context of a problem isa unique and honest perspective of how many people experience their sexuality.This common experience is very different to how sex is portrayed in the mediawhere it is often simplified into a long procession of exciting passion-filledtryst with boundless possibilities and endless variety. If we are to believewhat we read, if you are not doing at least three times a week then you arepositively missing out. The problem of sex is as varied as the people who exhibit them but thereare certainly common themes which broadly apply to various age groups andlife stages. One theme, on which this article will focus, is the expressionof sexuality for those who are older (mid-life) and who have been partneredfor a long time. People in later life have invariably ?been through the menu? as far as life?sexperiences go, including the highs and low of relationships, careers, traveland of course sex. There is a tendency at this life stage to become stuckor fixated on a particular approach to life that can be both a blessing anda curse: a blessing because it allows people to repeat a successful formulaand a curse because it hinders change. One approach to life that many people have become adept at is problem solvingand strategising. In essence, people see themselves as being ?here? but needto be ?there? so their lives become focused on navigating and facilitatinga smooth passage - or so we hope. The great temptation is to treat the problemof sex in the same way. But the problem of sex is not so amenable to ourgrand schemes and manipulations. Somehow, the terms ?strategy? and ?sex?don?t go that well together in long term relationships. Strategy might workfor a male to entice his new lover into bed, but in older well establishedrelationships, people need to be vulnerable, go deeper and engage with anopen heart and learn to make deep compromises. This is not something we oftenassociate with strategy and clinical problem solving. Another observation is that the barriers to communication are raised in proportionto the age of the relationship. We often wonder why it is so much more difficultto talk about sex as compared to for example, one?s career aspirations. Thisis a curious position to find oneself in, because in reality, sexual fulfilmentis a need just like any other need. Compare these two conversations withyour spouse: ?I?ll leave work early and pick up the kids while you do theshopping? with, ?I?ll arrange for the fur lined hand cuffs while you????. It would be fair to say that only a very small minority of long term relationshipswould experience the second type discourse at all. So just being able totalk about our sexual needs is an important hurdle in dealing with the problemof sex. The previous ideas about problem solving and communication show that in essence,the problem of sex is not a genital problem, but rather a brain problem.Intimately tied to the brain is the experience of our inner world and howwe deal with the sexual emotions and urges within us. Our sexuality can often seem all smoke and mirrors where largely irrationalthoughts rage and subside in accordance with a sexual desire emanating froma deeper source within. As such, our sexuality can involve strong feelingsof emotional ambiguity and mental conflict as our minds try to make senseof this ?thing? within us. This conflict can for example be exhibited inour relationship with our life-long partner whom we may cherish deeply, andtowards whom we may feel a deep sense of emotional connection. Yet, at thesame time, we may also feel drawn by longing for freedom of sexual expressionin an environment where emotional connection is not important. In this setting,we experience a sense of danger and excitement that pervades the sexual experienceand fuels the flames of desire. Yet our mind will not allow this, and afterhaving such an experience (even only in fantasy), the accusing finger ofthe mind is pointed towards us and says ?shame on you!? Our environment has also much to do with our experience of the problem ofsex in later life. In simple terms, after creating a nest and filling itwith a surfeit of hard and soft furnishings (and needless to say a few children)we tend to loose our way. This is especially the case in the bedroom whereour experience of sensual pleasure becomes unfulfilling and sporadic witha long time between drinks. Excitement, fulfilment and sexual interest arelost in the unending ?to-do? list that our lives become. Why do the termsthat that we use to gauge the success of our lives like ?management?, ?control?,?efficiency? and ?effectiveness? seem so anti-erotic? There is a certain depressing inevitability about this progression into sucha later life malaise and our attempts at rebellion are often feeble and misguided.Are not our aspirations for executive bonuses or luxury cars and houses partof this rebellion? Might we be saying- if I can?t have this [a fulfillingsex life], then I might as well have that [the envy of my peers]. At leastthey might think I?m getting it because we all know what an aphrodisiac moneyis supposed to be!? Over time our views of sex and attitudes towards various activities and practiceschange driven largely by a need for novelty and variation. Our sexualityis evolving and creating a situation where our long-term partner is ableto remain fully in tune with our sexual needs is a challenge. We are certainlynot the same people who made the decision to enter into a long-term partnershipmany years ago when perhaps our sexual needs were more basic and urgent andwhen our sexual experiences seemed new and exciting. For middle aged people, not only has their sexual landscape changed but itcan remain ill- defined. Sometimes all we know is that we have deeper urgesand longings but we are unsure of how they might possibly be sated. Somehowthe answer to this question is so much more complex than regressing to apornographic phase where every orifice is fair game. You might also think that this is all solved through good loving communicationbut life is never this simple as demonstrated earlier. While opening up isimportant, it may not necessarily lead to a suitably willing partner ? heor she might never want to swing from the chandeliers.So while all of these difficulties and obstacles described previously mightseem overwhelming, there is an alternative to defeatism: we can resolve tochange our attitudes and outlook on life. To do this, I suggest that you turn to the ideas of people who have exploredthis theme before. One of the most important people in this regard is MarquisDe Sade who considered the pursuit of human pleasure the object of humanlife. He also thought that people had the capacity to extend their possibilitiesfor pleasure by wilful and intellectual effort. By observation it appears that our broader society has taken on the ideasof De Sade with gay abandon judging by the amount of sexually related materialthat is published especially in popular magazines and on the internet. Thesad reality however is quite different ? most have chosen lifestyles thatare positively against developing a pursuit of human pleasure which is agreat paradox. We choose other things and by default, choose not to havesex.So let?s be clear, problems in the bedroom are not easily overcome. It takesa great deal of effort, vulnerability, sacrifice and honesty. We have tounderstand how important sex is to us and what are prepared to loose to gaina deeper sense of fulfilment. How much wilful and intellectual effort arewe prepared to expend to achieve sexual fulfilment? How honest will we allowourselves to be about our sexual needs and are we prepared to gently communicatethem to our partner?Once we have decided to come to terms with the problem of sex in our ownlives and have resolved to overcome the communication obstacle, then thereis scope to explore techniques for deepening our capacity to experience andshare sensual pleasure. One such tool is the practise of Tantra since it encourages communication,asks you to share quality time with your partner and above all, promotesa deep sense of eroticism in the relationship. This is important because,like De Sade?s ideas, it places the expression of sexuality at the centreof our lives - where it belongs. Tantra silences the mind ? since in Tantra there are no problems to be solved.Tantra teaches us to exist in the moment and become highly aware of, andsensitive to, our own and our partner?s level of arousal. With Tantra, thebody does the talking and we move onto a new space of erotic possibility.So instead of living in a world where we feel burdened and cornered by theproblem of sex, the practise of Tantra can push the walls away and revealan expanded world of sensual possibility.
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Inspirational Spiritual Healer - Nicky Steadman Nicky has been an Inspirational Spiritual Healer for the past 10 years, specialising in clearing blocked energies, releasing unwanted issues, regaining the true-self and spiritual readings.With the help of her spiritual guides she can guide you to boost your self confidence, know your self worth and take back your own power to enrich the life your were truly meant to live. Each of us deserves to live the life we dream of, it is achievable if you allow yourself to believe. Contact Nicky on 0423 190 271 or [email protected] for more information
Hello and Welcome,
As I sit down to write this newsletter, it occurred to me how quickly the year is passing by and how many new and wonderful doors are opening for the Sanctuary of Tantra. It is my vision and passion to extend Tantra out into the community to create awareness and knowledge into sacred sexuality. Sexual energy is incredibly powerful if used correctly. It is not just for pleasure but also for healing and ENERGY. Energy! Without it we don't survive, especially in this fast pace world where there never seems any spare time to have quiet time with our partner (or ourselves). Tantra teaches us that we must first look "within". A fantastic sex life starts "within"....within is where our thoughts are, our energy, our capacity to feel love, the list goes on. TANTRA IS A REUNION WITH THE DIVINE the God-Goddess essence of who we really are. Tantra is Embracing the RICHNESS of life!
The Singles Tantra Retreat held on the 6th and 7th June was a huge success. Tantra workshops, Chakra workshops, Hatha Yoga and of course the amazing food were just some of the highlights of the weekend. We never stopped eating!....Sue you are an amazing cook! Thank you to a wonderful group of people that helped make teaching Tantra an absolute joy. Many thanks to all the participants for making this such a special weekend with lots of fond memories and a special thank you to Lesley and Julie, Sue Bartoll and Cooks, Lara Farrow, Chaz, Kris and Claire Beldon.
Tantra Retreat June 09
Male Tantra Instructor
The Sanctuary would like to extend a warm welcome to Kris and Chaz our first ever DARKINI'S (Male Tantra Instructors) Private sessions are now available for women of all ages to experience a one on one with a male instructor. Kris and Chaz will professionally and gently guide you into a new world of knowledge into the divine and sacred wisdom of the goddess. These sessions are designed to blend the Yin (feminine energy) with the Yang (masculine energy) to learn new techniques and skills to embrace sacred sexuality and to learn "what men really want in a lover". An experience no woman would want to miss! You can read the profiles of Kris and Chaz on the website soon and I can personally vouch they are amazing people! (Please note: There is no sexual intercourse in any of these sessions. Private women's sessions are also still available with Cathy).
Cost: Session 1 $250 - Session 2 $250
Female Tantra Instructor
The Sanctuary would also like to extend a warm welcome to Christine our new TANTRIKA (Female Tantra Instructor). Christine embodies the skills and professionalism of sacred sexuality combining warmth and nurturing to create a session you will never forget. Christine is also a practising Life Coach and will be available in August for private men's sessions South of the River. (Please note: There is no sexual intercourse or sexual gratification in any of these sessions).
Cost: Session 1 $250 - Session 2 $250
Jade and Lapis Lazuli Eggs - The best kept secret of the Goddess has arrived!
Lapis Lazuli Eggs
I am continually studying and searching for amazing techniques and products to help women create an amazing sex life and through my journey have stumbled on one of the biggest secrets of the Goddess of centuries ago. Jade or Lapis Lazuli Eggs are used to strengthen the vaginal walls hence increasing vaginal pleasure, vaginal strength, multiple orgasms and healthy genitals. Used for centuries, the eggs are the best kept secret to revitilising your life love! Can any woman ask for more than that! The Eggs come in sets of 3 or 4 different sizes, are drilled for easier use and come with full instructions. Please note: Full instructional use of the eggs are taught in the Advanced Women's Tantra Workshop.
Jade Stone (Green) Stone
Set of 3 $129 - Set of 4 $139
Lapis Lazuli (Blue) Stone
Set of 3 $149 - Set of 4 $159
(Please note: The Lapis is slightly more expensive as the stone is not as readily available as the Jade)
The next meditation evening will be held on the 8th July from 7.15pm to 9.15pm at the Forrestfield Hall, Cnr Hale Road and Anderson Road, Forrestfield. Please remember to bring a cushion, yoga mat and water. Cost $10.
SPECIAL GUEST SPEAKER
22nd JULY MEDITATION
Tantra Meditation on the 22nd July will welcome a very special Guest Speaker; MASTER ALEX LIM. Master Lim is a Teacher of QiGong and Meditation as well as a Traditional Chinese Health Therapist and Acupuncturist. THIS WILL BE AN EVENING NOT TO BE MISSED! Cost for this session is $20. Please advise attendance for numbers thank you.
Couples Tantra Retreat
15th and 16th August 2009. After the incredible success of the Singles Tantra Retreat, the Couples Retreat is an experience not to be missed! Whether you want to re-ignite the passion back into your relationship, learn simple techniques to enhance lovemaking or simply build closer intimacy with your partner then this Retreat is for you. Treat yourself and your partner and relax in an atmosphere of total LOVE indulgence. PLACES ARE FILLING FAST! DON'T MISS OUT!
Cost: $765 per couple (all inclusive - includes Workshops, Special Tantra Pack, Guest Speakers, All Meals and Accommodation). MT HELENA RETREAT
BACK BY POPULAR DEMAND! - Singles Tantra Retreat
7th and 8th November 2009. During this unique retreat Cathy will guide you through an empowering spiritual journey of mastering and directing your own sexual energy through the practice of Tantra. Cathy will conduct various sessions and teachings in this ancient and sacred art and how it can impact your life today. There will also be two special guest speakers in fields related to the practice of Tantra.
Cost: $565 (inclusive - includes Workshops, Special Tantra Pack, Guest Speakers, All Meals and Accomodation). MT HELENA RETREAT
TANTRIC EXPEDITION TO THE WHITE LION HEARTLAND (AFRICA) 21st MARCH 2010 EQUINOX
"A once in a life time opportunity to experience Healing Self and Healing the Great Mother (Earth)."
A unique opportunity to join the first white lion pride re-introduced to their natural and spiritual homelands of the Greater Timbavati region. This amazing expedition will include meeting Chief (Hosi) Khosa's village which includes a traditional dinner, Shangaan warrior dancing and drumming, "Sleep out" under the stars at the Lion Lookout, Dream analysis workshop of symbols and dreams, Animal soul Walk, Game Drives, River of Gold, Making the Lion-Unicorn Connection, The Great Matriarchal Elephants, Emoto's theories of water and the healing powers of the White Lions and much much more. This expedition is not open to the general public but has been very kindly offered By Linda Tucker (CEO White Lion Global Protection Trust) for the Sanctuary of Tantra. WHAT AN INCREDIBLE JOURNEY! (Please see full details on web under RETREATS).
Women's Tantra Workshop (for beginners)
12th July 2009. This Workshop is a must for any woman who is on a path of self discovery to empower and awaken her Shakti (Goddess) energy. Open to women of all ages whether single or in a relationship. 12pm to 5pm.
Cost: $100 (Includes Manual, Certificate and Afternoon Tea)
Women's Advanced Tantra Workshop
26th July 2009. This Workshop follows on from the beginners workshop. Advanced techniques and skills are taught including the art of Tantric Massage, Tantric Touch. Open to women who have completed the beginners workshop. 10am to 5pm.
Cost: $200 (Includes Manual, Certificate, Lunch and Afternoon Tea)
Couples Tantra Workshop
19th July 2009. A beginners Couples Workshop designed to teach couples skills for a lasting and fullfiling relationship. Encompassing simple skills and techniques to enhance lovemaking, communication and intimacy. 12pm to 5pm.
Cost: $200 per couple (Includes Manual and Afternoon Tea)
Tantra Meditation - An Introduction to Tantra through breath awareness
Now available online www.sanctuaryoftantra.com.au under PRODUCTS and also at Ambrosium in Kalamunda, Perth.
(The Sanctuary of Tantra supports The White Lion Global Protection Trust. $2 from the proceeds from every CD will go to the White Lion Protection Trust www.whitelions.org)
For further details of Sessions, Workshops and Retreats please visit web www.sanctuaryoftantra.com.au GIFT VOUCHERS AVAILABLE.
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This magnificent Sunset was taken by a wonderful friend of mine "RJP Photography"
"Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth...Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try hard to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from comming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it". - John Templeton (1766-1825)
As a tantra teacher the question I get commonly asked is “can I practice tantra on my own” the answer is “absolutely”. In tantra we call this right hand path , to be able to integrate tantra into our daily exercises through understanding and knowing “thyself” only then can we combine this energy with our partner and this is known as “left hand path”. Tantra is about acceptance, accepting who you are as a person and honoring and loving YOU; it is about cleansing, clearing the body, mind and spirit of negative emotions, beliefs, addictions; it is about passion; feeling passionate about EVERYTHING in and around your life not just on a sexual level, it is about Consciousness, learning to be in the beauty of the moment and just BE. People who take drugs for example are not conscious because they are trying to escape reality (the now) by creating a fantasy through drug use. When they make love, where will they really be? Totally immersed in the moment or in their own daydreams and thoughts. TANTRA IS ABOUT BEING NOT DOING!!
There is a beautiful definition of the word NAMASTE (which means blessings) that reminds me of the purity and beauty of tantra:
“I honour the place within you in which the entire Universe dwells. I honour the place within you which is of love, of peace, or truth and of light. When you are in that place in you and I am in that place in me, we are one”
Recently myself and a group of people from the tantra meditation class had the honour of experiencing an amazing evening at the Quiet Cone in Parkerville. The Quiet Cone is a pyramidial shape cone reputed to have geometric properties that focus positive energy and deflect negative emotions. In this beautiful sacred space you will experience the sound of the gong. The potency of symphonic gonging is not only therapeutic but can also have quite an astoundingly positive effect on the body's energy centres.
It was an amazing experience that left myself incredibly at peace and relaxed and I would like to say a heartfelt thank you to Peter and Lynn for their warmth and hospitality not to mention their wisdom and dedication to the gongs. I can thoroughly recommend the Quiet Cone for anyone wishing to receive healing and relaxation on the highest level or who simply wants to experience something "different".
On the 28th March the Quiet Cone is hosting an amazing evening of Gongs, POW Wow drums, Didgeridoo and Cherokee Bobby Running Fox and his son Mivan will be entertaining with their singing and native flute. All profits are going to some wonderful charities. DON'T MISS THIS EVENT!
Please visit web for further details www.quietcone.com
The Sanctuary of Tantra is now offering private sessions in Tantra for men with a beautiful and professional goddess new to Perth. Please contact Cathy [email protected]
THE FOUNTAIN OF LIFE
Along the journey of life paths may start far apart, come together, share each others space and part their ways, to sometimes cross again or maybe explore completely separate parts of the universe.
When two paths cross there is the opportunity to learn, share, care and drink together from the fountain of life, to experience pleasure, fulfillment and joy, before each one's journey carries you along to somewhere else. No long term commitment is made, but memories and feelings maybe cherished for ever.
When you are along your journey there are times when you are focussed on others and not on your own path. You feel lost, tired or do not feel anything at all.
You may not realise you are on part of the path which is shared and you miss the opportunity to refresh yourself.
Or you may be scared to be sharing the path, not sure where it may lead or how long it will be shared. Maybe you do not want the sharing to end.
But always be aware that at times you need to be focussed on yourself, your soul and your spirit for these may need refreshment - so, walk up to the fountain and drink deeply for oneself, share your path for a while and enjoy the journey.
......some reflections on Tantra.
The Heart of Tantric Sex by Diana Richardson
Emergence of the Sensual Woman by Saida Desilets
Tantra for Erotic Empowerment - The Key to Enriching your Sexual Life by Mark A Michaels, Patricia Johnson and Tristan Taormino
Ecstasy Through Tantra by Dr Jonn Mumford (see below for more info)
A Chakra and Kundalini Workbook by Dr Jonn Mumford (see below for more info)
Death Beginning or End? by Dr Jonn Mumford (see below for more info)
Heart of the Flower by Andrew Barnes and Yvonne Lumsden (available at the online shop Sanctuary of Tantra)
The Multi Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams
I am thrilled to announce ANGUS AND ROBERTSON AUSTRALIA are now selling Dr Jonn Mumford's books. Currently the store in Bondi Junction Sydney has the books in stock but you can refer to the link below for stockists in Perth.
I am studying 'Om Kara Kriya Tantra' with Dr Jonn Mumford, (Swami Anandakapila Saraswati). Dr Mumford is such an amazing teacher with a wonderful sense of humour and I highly recommend all his books. They are so full of tantric wisdom and erotic tantric delights! www.jonnmumfordconsult.com
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